I spent this afternoon working on my business, before going into the J.O.B. And had an amazing afternoon. I spent some time teaching a voice lesson to an awesome 7-year old, delivered some product and received a handsome check in return, then shared the marketing information with a new friend who was interested, and who signed up for the business. I was all smiles going into work.
And then the ick happened.
My boss, with whom I normally get along very well, asked how I was doing today. I replied, “I’m doing great, I’m having an amazing day!” He nodded and asked me to close the door, as he needed to talk to me. He didn’t yell, because, well, he doesn’t yell. But the effect was the same. I was ticked off, and I was miserable. He icked on my wow. And for a while, I let him.
While on a break, I called my wonderful Sales Director, to get my woohoo back. All she had to say was “Focus on the amazing, not on the negative,” and I was back in the game. And I realized, this is that emotional management thing I’ve been struggling with.
I can not control how others treat me. However, I can absolutely control how I react to it. I just need to keep a couple things in mind:
1. Consider the source. (Thank you, Dad, for drumming this one into my head!) When naysayers, party poopers, and parade rainers are spreading their doom and gloom, stop and think about whether they are people whose thoughts and opinions truly matter to you. “But Kriss,” you might say, “It’s my mother / priest / lawyer / best friend / spouse icking on me!” Well, aside from your mother, you can always get a new priest, lawyer, best friend, or spouse. Or you can chose to stop sharing your wow, so they’ll stop the ick. Or you can do what Mary Kay Ash did when starting her skin care and cosmetics company: Listen to their advice, and forge ahead anyway. Her lawyer and accountant both told her that her company would never take off, she would be destitute in months, to take her money out and run. Mary Kay, Inc. has been in business for going on 50 years, and is in thirty some odd nations around the world.
2. Don’t let the bastards get you down. (Thank you, Granddaddy, for these words of wisdom!) When you can’t avoid the ick, rise above it. One affirmation that has helped me float above the much is this: “I will let NOBODY push my buttons! I will let NOBODY rain on my parade. I will go over, I will go under, and I will go through ANY obstacle that comes my way….because I am HIGHLY motivated, TRULY dedicated, and EXTREMELY successful…..YES!!!” (Thank you Darlene Walker for sharing this affirmation!)
Eleanor Roosevelt told us decades ago that “Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent.” I’d bet she knew all about emotional management.
No more letting people ick on my wow. It’s MY wow, darn it, and I’m keeping it.